The Excellence of Modesty and Shyness
From the noblest of manners that Allah (S.W.T) has bestowed upon us is Modesty. Hassan As-Somaali in this lecture reminds us of this praiseworth quality and the importance of achieving it.
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The Excellence of Shyness & Modesty – Br. Hasan As-Somali
Shyness and Modesty: praiseworthy qualities
Imam Bukhari: The people they learn from the Prophet s.a.w. If you don’t have shame, do as you wish.
Ibn Rajab explains* The wording of the hadeeth—this is something narrated to the previous prophets. And verily mankind has received from the prophets and learned from the Prophets.
*That verily Prophethood in the past came in brought this speech, and it becomes something well known among the people and becomes something natural in the people. *Some people have this naturalness in them; i.e some brothers/sisters are natural shy and is something they don’t need to learn.
*This is from the noblest of manners that Allah has made in the human. Signs of Iman=modesty and shyness
*The Prophet s.a.w. said: Reported from Bukhari .Modesty doesn’t bring anything but good; khayr. [Al Hayaa, la yatee, illa bi khayr] Protects the person and protects from falling in shame, that which is ugly, and bad manners. This modesty will create a willingness to do good with it.
Hadeeth Ibn Umar. The Prophet s.a.w. passed by a man from the Ansar, who was admonishing a man about modesty. The Prophet s.a.w. said 2nd kind of Hiyah—obtaining Hayah, learned modesty and shyness.
Shame and modesty is from faith. Rajjab—from knowing Allah –the knowledge of Allah—that’s how shame and modesty is acquired. How can we acquire: Hayah will protect from doing that which is bad: A person from having shame, recognizing in your deficiency in your self and the perfection found in only Allah. Realizing your shortcomings—and recognizing the power of Allah—one of the ways of getting closer to Allah.
Nothing will prevent him from doing wrong—those who don’t have modesty and shame. Ibn Rajjab—Umm Abduallah commenting from him—(Above comments)
Its not hayah—praiseworthy modesty and shame—is one that protects from doing evil and going against Allah; and doing something that will anger Allah. “If you don’t have shame, do as you wish”The scholars have to meanings for this.
**Not a statement to do as you wish; rather the meaning is that its dis-praiseworthy. Not having shame that is. 1,2.) A threat; related to this—and Allah subhana Wa Tala will bring you to account.If one wants to do something and they are not shameful of it, not from Allah and of the people, because it’s the disobedience of Allah; then do as you wish.
Umm Abdullah defines modesty: She says Imam Nawawi: The scholars they say, the reality of modesty and shame (You can now bring yourself to account—of whether you have these attributes).
§ A characteristic that encourages the person to leave that which is evil and repugnant.§ This modesty is the most excellent of manners.§ Prevents a person from falling short in fulfilling a right of one who has a right over us.§ From those who have the best modesty—signs of beauty and of honor.§ This shame is an adornment which only brings beauty to the one who posses it.Lack of Modesty as Umm Abduallah mentions: § If modesty is not prevalent in the land—Leads to all types of evils; peoples honor might be questioned, —fahisha, blood will be spilled and sins might be spread out throughout the land.
§ Mixing of men and women will become prevalent—fornication, zina, women might travel without mahrem. The truth will be heard and rejected.
§ If you don’t have shame; anything will come out of your mouth—you’ll transgress against your brother.
Blood will be spilled—Why, no modesty—The Prophet s.a.w. forbade a man to point a sword at ones brother.
No respect of elders—speaking disrespectfully to elders. Signs of unhappiness and miserliness in a person whether they know it or not: 5 signs
Umm Abduallah—Al fudail ibnul Iyad stated:
§ Verily if you’re not obeying Allah and you’re not fulfilling and staying away from prohibition—then unhappiness and miserliness will accompany you.
§ Hardness of the heart
§ Hardness of the eye—not being able to cry from the fear of Allah.
§ Too much desire for the dunya.
Allah subhana Ta’ala will reward a man for raising a daughter who is modest.
SEE Surah QASAS verse 23-25
Living in these lands—due to our environment we’re affected—where modesty and shyness become something disliked
Asma bint Abi Bakr r.a. The Prophet s.a.w. passed by her, and when the Propet s.a.w. passed by with a Companion of his, and he s.a.w. said follow me..behind me. And she says I had shame and didn’t want to accompany the men and remembered Zubayr’s jealousy,
Ibnul-Qayyim said—Life of the heart—the strength of ones hayah and shyness relies on the strength of ones heart.
A healthy heart—full of hayah. If the heart is sick—there is a lack of shame.
The more alive the heart is, the more modesty and shameful the person is.
THREE TYPES OF HEARTS: Dead heart, sick heart, Pure heart.
(We should ask ourselves which heart we possess)
Ibn Qayyim- continuous the state of ones modesty relies on the amount of knowledge one has of his Lord.
Beneficial knowledge, and righteous actions—the whole deen is build on this.
There is no shame in the deen—no matters of deen that is shameful—ask if you don’t know. You are more likely to act without knowledge this is shameful—if you act without knowledge you are falling into the ways of the Christians.
This shame and modesty should never prevent you from learning of your religion.
Buqhari—in his book Saheeh—women asking of wet dream—Umm Sulam.
Muhjahid; student of Ibn Abbas said ==The shameful and the proud will never obtain knowledge==
Umm Abduallah said—shame should be applied in its rightful place. Submitting to Allah and staying away from that which He has prohibited.
The Prophet s.a.w. said: Shame is a branch of Iman.
Said Al-Khudri said of the Prophet s.a.w. –Allah messenger s.a.w. was shyer then a virgin behind a veil, when he s.a.w. saw something which he s.a.w. didn’t like—you could see it on his face and perceive it as well. He was the best example and he s.a.w. should be followed.
Characters of the bride—she was shy and shameful—known to have modesty.
When we see people not having shame/modesty we should remind them.
Like ourselves—don’t try to defend yourself in falsehood when accused, but put your pride aside and accept that which is a reminder.